thinking about how if romance wasn’t institutionalized everyone’s lives would be so much better
like people would obviously still have feelings that we term as romantic but there wouldn’t be the pressure to label that or commit to exclusively dating/marrying that person it would just be a different type of relationship
like imagine if it wasn’t the norm for everyone to partner off into pairs and you had most people living in something that we would define as a polycule with all sorts of different relationships for different reasons within that and some people just on their own where people are unbothered by that and they could actually afford to support themselves on their own (crazy)!
like what if a group of besties wanted to raise a family together and maybe some of them have sex with each other and some of them don’t touch at all! what if people didn’t feel pressure to live in the nuclear family - even though that would still technically be an option
imagine how many people’s lives would be so much better. less pressure to get into abusive relationships. no oppression just because you act a certain way with certain people. no financial pressure to get married or not get married. disabled people not losing their benefits just because they want to commit to someone in a way that matters to them. when everyone gets to define their own relationship and the boundaries within it, everyone improves
there is, in fact, a “platonic explanation for this” if you’re not a coward
its so fun to see the diversity of tags on this ranging from “they’re literally just standing next to each other” to “deep bonds dont have to be romantic/sexual!” to “yeah friends can fuck nasty, platonically. coward.” we’re all so correct, there are, in fact, a million platonic explanations for this
The wildfires in Maui aren’t natural disasters, they are colonial disasters and a direct result of both the fossil fuel industry and the military industrial complex.
Realtors preying on property in Lahaina- while Kānaka Maoli who resided there for generations are now houseless- is a result of greed and disaster capitalism.
Citizen journalists on the ground are reporting on the devastating cost these fires have on their communities and the untold stories in the media about the tourists still actively extracting land and from already limited resources.
assume it’s as long as whatever your average book length is. in total, not just in hours read, so including times where you aren’t actively reading. it takes me months to read even simple books but i keep seeing people implying theyre done in a couple days so i was curious. feel free to rb for sample size (i cant believe i fucked up this post twice in a row)
My biggest problem with microlabels is how some people use them to like, diagnose you. I’ll make a post explaining something wonky about my identity, not asking for advice or help, fully entrenched in the aro identity, and some clown will be like, “have you considered that you’re actually abro, lithro, loveless, quasiro, etc etc etc, repeat ad nauseam. Like no!!!! I haven’t!
If you resonate with something I say and YOU identify with a microlabel, great! Tell me about it! There are so many microlabels, and I love to learn. But that’s a verrry different experience than someone telling me what I should identify as based on three sentences I said one time on the internet.
Like, don’t care, didn’t ask, do not collect $200, and go to jail <3
STOP GIVING THEM MONEY! stop trying to make crab day or whatever else happen. paying for stuff from the shop is rewarding them for ignoring the userbase continuously and doing things the majority don’t want, even if the things they’re doing and allowing can cause actual deaths. staff shouldn’t be praised and get profit for ignoring their users in exchange for trying to turn tumblr into twitter 2 ft. tiktok. at this point i don’t even care for “staff are people 🥺 be nice” arguments, because even when people are being very polite in feedback, they’re perfectly fine ignoring it in exchange for implementing changes nobody wants or asked for, all because new users may like it more (and forget anyone who’s used the site for years, apparently).
leave bad reviews. don’t buy things from the shop. send feedback, even if they never reply. email them and @ the staff, send asks to the wip blog. don’t just blindly buy into “we need to support the site, buy xyz shop product”, they don’t deserve more money for giving a worse product.
hannah's cool blog!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
